Allow Me to Reintroduce Myself

Hi there!

I wanted to take a moment to reintroduce myself.

My name is Dominique. I’m 41 years old. I’m a wife, a mom, and a millenial manager. lol. I teach Bible study, and I enjoy brunch, happy hour, reading, writing, traveling, shopping, and a good nap!

I’ve been writing this blog for almost ten years, which is absolutely crazy to think about.

Now, my consistency hasn’t always been great. I’ve been paying for this domain for ten years, though! 😂 Over the last five years, I’ve gotten better about showing up, but this year? I’ve been excellent, if I do say so myself. And I’m really proud of that.

When I started Always Finding the Silver Lining, my goal was simple: I wanted to help people find the good in the difficult things we experience in life.

And although my life has changed quite a bit over the last decade, my reason for writing hasn’t.

I’ve always wanted to help people get to know God in a way that feels accessible. I want people to understand that God can meet them exactly where they are and that connecting with Him doesn’t have to fit into a particular box.

That connection can look different for different people.

Sometimes it looks like studying the Bible in a traditional way. Other times, it looks like using song lyrics to dig deeper into Scripture. Sometimes it’s recognizing that decluttering your house can teach you something about making room for God.

Who would’ve thought?

That’s what I love about writing. There are so many ways to explore faith, life, and spiritual growth.

Recently, I went back and read the original welcome message I wrote when I started this blog almost ten years ago. One line stood out to me:

“I am moving along beside you in this journey called life.”

Reading those words today, I realize that’s still exactly what I’m doing.

I’m a little older, hopefully a little wiser, and definitely more comfortable sharing my thoughts. I’ve experienced things I never imagined when I started this blog. I’ve grown as a woman, a mother, a wife, a writer, and in my relationship with God.

But I still don’t have all the answers.

I still believe there’s value in sharing what I’m learning along the way.

The woman who started this blog almost ten years ago would never have imagined we’d be here today. Back then, I wasn’t particularly comfortable being vulnerable or trying things I wasn’t immediately good at. But I felt God pushing me to write, so I did.

I’m so glad I listened.

At the beginning of this year, I did something I’d never done before. I planned out an entire year of blog content. And for the most part, I’ve stuck to that plan!

I’m proud of the consistency I’ve developed, but as I start thinking about next year, I find myself asking some questions.

What do I want to write about? What do I want to say? How do I continue bringing fresh, interesting content to a blog I’ve been writing for almost a decade?

I don’t want to write just for the sake of writing.

I don’t want you to receive another email from me simply because it’s time for another post.

I want what I share to mean something.

I want you to feel inspired, empowered, challenged, convicted, educated, informed, or maybe just reminded that you’re not alone in whatever you’re experiencing.

I want to keep growing, too.

I’ve finished the first draft of my book, and my goal is to finish the second draft before the end of the year. That’s another journey I’m excited about, especially because there was a time when writing a book felt like such a distant possibility.

So as I look toward the new year, I’m feeling a little torn, but not in a bad way.

I’m excited. I’m curious. I’m interested to see what this next chapter of writing looks like.

I’d love to hear from you.

What do you want to read about? What questions do you have? What topics would you like to explore together?

Maybe it’s faith. Maybe it’s motherhood, relationships, personal growth, or navigating life’s challenges. Maybe it’s something I haven’t even thought about yet.

One thing I’ve realized is that I don’t necessarily need to find brand-new things to talk about. Sometimes growth allows us to revisit familiar subjects with a different perspective. The way I understood life, faith, and even myself ten years ago isn’t necessarily the way I understand those things today.

And that’s part of the beauty of this journey.

I don’t have all the answers, and I certainly don’t have everything figured out. But I do know that I want to keep writing, learning, growing, and finding the silver lining along the way.

Almost ten years later, the mission is still the same. I’m just continuing to grow into it.

I hope you’ll stick around for the journey.

Now it’s your turn! What would you love to see on Always Finding the Silver Lining in the coming year? Leave a comment and let me know. I’d love to hear from you!

Until next time,

Dominique

How to hear the voice of God

I talked before about asking God to take my desire for having a baby away if he didn’t want me to have one. He never did. I also talked about doing a lot of research and study just to make sure that the hope that I was clinging to made sense. I know this is a hard thing to do, but if you are wrestling with something for a long time, you made need to ask to make sure you are your desires match up with what God wants for your life.

I studied on the character of God. One of my favorite verses is God is not like man, he does not lie, he does not change his mind. Numbers 23:19

I read a book by Joyce Meyer (of course, lol) called How to hear the Voice of God. It was huge for me because it helps you figure out if God said something to you or if you came up with it yourself.

There are so many gems in that book but these are ones I still use today.

Does it back up biblically? This isn’t a peck and find situation. Can you find several scriptures that address your situation? Other scriptures that say God doesn’t lie Titus 1:2, Hebrews 6:18

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Did you receive outside confirmation? God can use anything or anybody to speak to you. When I was thinking about starting this blog and was super nervous about, several different just randomly told me I should start a blog. Out of the blue! I didn’t mention that I was thinking about it, they just felt compelled to tell me. That’s God.

Have you created an atmosphere that shows your willingness to listen? We talked about this some in Do you feel like God left you on read? 10 reasons he might not be answering…

Do you know him? Not you heard of him, or you see him on Sunday, but are you in personal relationship? Is God your friend?

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I also watched this video from Priscilla Shirer where she discusses her book, Discerning the Voice of God. Check it out, its only 8 minutes. https://youtu.be/FaZ8SlAcCVk I always try to find multiple sources of anything I am researching.

Highlights in her video

You have to read your bible to hear the voice of God. Its the number one way he speaks to us, its his word. That’s why I keep trying the bible in a year plan.

Random coincidences, aren’t random that was God. I don’t personally believe in coincidence, I feel that everything happens for a reason. That was God working something out for your good.

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She also said sometimes you won’t know until later that it was God speaking to you. You just have to step out on faith and believe his grace and mercy will catch you if you mess up. That’s the awesome thing about God you don’t have to get it all right.

Hearing the voice of God can be so difficult. There are so many things in the world that can distract us or make us doubt what God told us. Circumstances can make us doubt the promises of God but we don’t have to. The more we know him, the more we can hear him. We just need to remember to feed our faith and starve our doubts.

Until next time,

Dominique

Quick and dirty (24)

I am reading this book right now called The Gifts of Imperfections, by Brene’ Brown. In the book she has 10 guideposts to life. Her whole approach is not how to but why you make the decisions you make. They were so many nuggets in her book. It has been a long time since I connected with a book in the way I connected with hers. I saw myself in those chapters. I was really surprised.

The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by [Brown, Brené]

One of the many things she said that stood out to me was when she said there is no fast way to do the work. She couldn’t give people a how to because it was a quick list of steps is not going to help you with long lasting change. A blogger that I follow, Aqua,  brought up this same topic in her post. She talked about why blogs with headlines like 10 Ways to Happiness got more likes than Christian blog posts that basically said the same thing.

I get it. Putting in the work is hard. I talked about in a previous post as well. I would much rather get a top ten things to do, or avoid instead of doing soul searching work that is difficult and takes a long time to show results. Most people don’t run marathons for a reason. We want Microwave Growth. I know at times I do. Brene’ talks about in her book, how that just doesn’t work, even when we want it to. I will be talking more about her book because it was so life changing to me. I think its great that other people are starting to get this concept as well. The more of us that talk about it, maybe more people will be willing to put in the work to change themselves and not go for the quick fix.

Happy Resurrection Sunday!

It’s not about bunnies, eggs and baskets. It’s about Jesus loving us so much he chose to die. He did not want to but he did it anyway. His love is unconditional. He is the same, yesterday, today and tomorrow.

If you are having doubts that he died and rose again, you should read The Case for Christ by Lee Strobel. Excellent book. It has facts and figures for people who need more information. It’s a great movie on Netflix. Enjoy!

Blessings to you and yours. Dominique