There are seasons in life when you just don’t feel like yourself. You can’t quite explain it, but something’s off. Here’s what that looked like for me—five stages I walked through to come out on the other side:

1. Isolation
I pulled away. I stopped talking as much, stopped showing up like I usually do. I was trying to dig myself out of a hole, but I was doing it alone—and it wasn’t working.

2. Reaching Out
Eventually, I told a few people what was happening and asked for prayer. They didn’t just say “I’ll pray for you”—they prayed for me right then and there. Hearing them talk to God on my behalf was healing in itself. Being vulnerable was scary, but it worked. They prayed, they encouraged me, and they helped me see things from a different perspective.

3. Crying Out to God
I started to cry out to God in my own time. I looked back through my notebooks, found highlighted verses, and reminded myself of what I already knew but had forgotten. It didn’t happen overnight, but little by little, I started feeling better.

4. Choosing to Show Up
Even when I didn’t feel like it, I kept tapping into God. I kept praying, kept listening to sermons, kept playing worship music. Sometimes our feelings have to catch up to where we are spiritually. You may never feel like doing the thing—but doing it anyway? That’s often when breakthrough happens.

I started going to events and gatherings, even when I didn’t want to. Being around friends and family helped me get out of my own head. Sometimes we just need to be around other people to remember that we’re not alone.

5. Surrendering to the Process
I recognized something was really wrong. I’d been going through the motions but hadn’t realized how off I was. I asked the Holy Spirit to pray for me because I didn’t have the words. I felt stuck. So I started praying for other people—and that helped a lot. It got my focus off myself. I was tired of hearing myself complain, tired of being in the same spot.

Then I came across this verse:

“For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow. But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death.”
— 2 Corinthians 7:10 (NLT)

That hit me hard. I realized I was feeling spiritual death, not feeling anything at all. My sorrow had turned me inward, away from God, and that wasn’t helping me heal.

So I started praying:
“God, give me power to push through, discipline to get it done, and compassion for myself.”

Keep Your Mind Stayed on Him
Isaiah 26:3 talks about perfect peace for those whose minds are stayed on God. But how do we keep our thoughts fixed on Him?

For me, that meant consistency: listening to gospel music, pausing to pray, tuning into sermons—anything that lifted me up. I realized I needed more than just mindless activities. Scrolling isn’t bad, but it’s junk food. It gives a quick hit of relief, but it can’t sustain you or help you grow.

Try This:
Is there something you need to ask for prayer about?
Write down 1–2 people you trust and reach out to them this week. Ask them to pray with you—right then and there.

You’re not alone. And even if you don’t feel like yourself right now, healing is happening. One step at a time. One day at a time.

If you’re in a season where you don’t feel like yourself, know this: you’re not broken, you’re becoming. God is still with you, even in the fog. Healing doesn’t always come with fireworks; sometimes it shows up in small steps, quiet moments, and brave decisions to keep going when you don’t feel like it.

Don’t be afraid to reach out. Don’t hesitate to pray, even if all you can say is “help.” Keep showing up. Keep listening for His voice. Keep doing the things that feed your soul, not just distract your mind.

You will feel like yourself again. Maybe not all at once, but day by day, God will restore your joy, your strength, and your sense of purpose.

You’re not alone, and you’re not stuck. You’re growing. Keep going.