Happy Mother’s Day

I once read a devotional called overwhelmed by my blessings. I can’t recall a more true statement for moms. On this Mother Day’s I wanted to reflect on the fact, that this is the hardest job that you have ever had that you don’t have a manual for. It doesn’t matter how many kids you, ever kid is different so it feels like you are starting over every time. A new mama reached out to me about how to deal with being overwhelmed and I thought it would be a good conversation to share.

Q: What helped your perspective when you were overwhelmed as mom and wife? Is it true that time really does help ? 

A:For me it was a combination of things.

Time definitely helps. Each day will eventually get easier. You and your baby will catch a rhythm so it will become to feel like second nature.

Prayer I literally had to tell God I was I struggling and stop trying to push through. Often times we put our heads down and just do, but that only works for so long.

Talking to like minded people. I had to be a little vulernable. Hearing that other moms were dealing with similar issues helped a lot. It made me feel less like I was doing a bad job or couldn’t hack it. 

Finding things that poured into me or bring me joy . I follow accounts on social media that make me laugh. I also learned in leadership class to have mini kit that you can pull out when you need a pick me up. Mine is the favorites album on my phone. I love looking at pictures of nature and clouds and that instantly lifts my mood. I also put my favorite songs on a playlist so I can get to them quickly. 

Taking some time for myself I am still working on this. But its something I will continue to prioritize. It is hard but necessary. I hate not being there with my boys but they have another parent and some times I have to tap out. I can’t do everything and I have to learn to be ok with that.