Is fear of failure selfish?

Yes. I didn’t use to think so, though. I felt like my lack of action, my deciding not to do anything was my business alone. It didn’t involve anybody but me and I wasn’t hurting anyone. I didn’t tell anybody my ideas because if it didn’t work out the only person disappointed was me. I can disappoint myself but I don’t like to disappoint other people. How many projects have you let pass by? How many jobs have you not applied to because you didn’t think you would get it? My pastor brought this up a while back and I never thought of it that way. Deciding that you are doing to hold back on your special skills, talents, gifts, perspective is definitely selfish. You are unique.  Whatever awesome thing you are good at that people can’t see you are keeping it from the world.

What’s your reason for keeping it hidden? My reason is that I want it to be perfect. I didn’t write this very blog for years because I held myself to an impossible standard. I wanted to be good right away I didn’t really want to go through the growing pains of first starting out. Most things I do, I do well, and with this being a new venture I didn’t want to do it if I wasn’t going to be the best. I don’t a lot of things I’m not good at for that very reason.  Its terrible I know. I’m working on it.

The funny thing is we weren’t called to be perfect. God is strong in our weakness. He feels in the gaps when we are deficient. Even if one persons life is impacted or changed by what you did wouldn’t that make it all worth it? This girl at work remembers this one line I said to her about stealing time. It was a throwaway line,  don’t even remember saying it. She does though, it has impacted her life. What if someone could remember you but for a positive? I don’t consider that event positive but I guess she will think twice about leaving work early. LOL.

What you have to bring to the table is important. Even if it doesn’t turn out 100% great you will have something to tweak and do better the next time. I still think like that sometimes. God was telling me to be a writer, to share my thoughts but I was caught up in the process. The when, where, how. Would it be a great success? Would anyone read what I had to say? I kept putting it off, doing research (my favorite) however at some point you just have to take the leap. God was literally making me miserable because I had not done what he told me to do. Writing was all I thought about, the words were pouring out of me but had no outlet. So here I am leaping. I hope you leap to. It won’t be as bad as you think, I promise and if it is, so what? What’s the worst that can happen? Good luck to you! Come back and tell me how it goes.


5 thoughts on “Is fear of failure selfish?

  1. So motivating! I’ve had the exact same feelings. I too have dreams to be a writer and it took my quite some time to begin my blog just a few months ago. Slowly, slowly it’s building, but I feel God has made it my calling too. The community on WordPress, and a special mention to the Christian community, are so encouraging and lovely to discuss matters with them. I’m glad I’ve come across your blog, all the best!


      • Keep up the good work! It is quite scary. But like I said, engaging with the community here has been incredibly reassuring, and so many of them have been incredibly encouraging with their kind words. If you feel you’ve got something important to say, say it, and you’ll find people who resonate with your message!


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